“If you want to fly, you have to give up the things that weigh you down”
Have you ever looked enviously at a young child and observed how they move effortlessly about their day free as a bird?
How much of your time do you spend in that same place of flow? For most of us the answer is not as much as we would like. What stops us?
Imagine you’re about to give a presentation, what might be going on in your mind? Any of this sounds familiar?
– I can’t do this
– This is the biggest presentation I’ve ever done
– I hope they find it interesting
– Is it too late to make changes?
– I wonder if more people will turn up than last time
– I’m useless at this kind of thing
– I’m not doing this again
– What if the technology fails?
– I think the CEO will be here, I have to make it good.
And on and on it goes. Endless reflections on the past and predictions of the future. A swirling storm of thoughts clogging up our mind like a washing machine on spin cycle.
Let’s think about a child running around the garden. What’s going on in their mind? Not a whole lot of past or future but a super focus on the here and now.
We could say the situations are incomparable and we would be right when we look at the external circumstances but when we turn the lens inwards there’s so much more we can see.
The weight of insecure thinking that we carry around can be utterly exhausting, placing our body in flight or fight, switching off the logic centres of our brain and our ability to access our full capabilities.
Yet research on flow by Kotler and Whealer shows us that, no matter who we are or what we are doing, flow is defined by a series of four characteristics. One of these characteristics is selflessness which we could define as the switching off of the neurotic nagging of the self or inner critic.
Not only this, which admittedly sounds incredible, but selflessness also frees us from “the confines of our normal identity” enabling us to look at life through fresh eyes. Fundamentally we have more perspective and, “by periodically losing our minds, we stand a better chance of finding ourselves”. Our true and best version of ourselves.
When we understand more about the incredible human operating system, we learn to align more with its design and reap the benefits. We take the weight off of our minds and access this state of flow and peak performance more of the time. This is the source of helping us lose ourselves and find a freer, more focused and more alive version of ourselves.
If you want to fly and access that enviable place of flow more of the time, we take individuals and teams on an experiential journey steeped in neuroscience and psychology. Reach out to find out more: email@example.com